Influence of Environment and People

You cannot escape the influence of your environment, nor can you shield(屏蔽) yourself from the impact of people around you. The environment you are in and the people you interact（互动） with are crucial（至关重要） to your development. You yearn（渴望） to overcome（战胜） these influences through your own intellect（心智）, to break free from the crowd around you, but it’s an ongoing draining（消耗） process. You lack enough wisdom and depth（底蕴） to counter（对抗） these forces. Living in such an environment, actively engaging with the people around you, their every word and action inevitably（不可避免） affect you. Moreover, the harsh（残酷） reality tells you clearly that you cannot rid（摆脱） yourself of the effects of the environment and the people around you, and sometimes, these influences become your most significant draining factors.

You care about getting likes（点赞） on your social media posts, you care about the messages from others in your work group, you care about receiving praise, you care about how important you appear to others, and you care about certain individuals and specific matters. Despite claiming that you don’t care, these things constantly（时刻） affect you, and thus, you cannot escape the influence of your environment. You lack the ability to remain untouched（未受影响） by the muddy waters of these influences.

You also yearn for recognition（认可）, aspiring（渴望） to be a valuable person. Even though you’ve been repulsed（拒绝） by being used countless（无数） times, sometimes being exploited（被利用） still feels like a form of acknowledgment（认可）, doesn’t it? You care about what you post on your social media, and at times, your social media becomes an outlet（出口） for emotional release（宣泄）. All of this is undeniably（不可否认） real. Don’t deliberately（刻意） avoid acknowledging these concerns. Instead, think about how you can cope with this environment.

Time is fleeting, and you must go after it; otherwise, besides aging, there will be nothing else left from the years. The reason you cannot free yourself from the influence of the environment and others is that you don’t know what you should do. You still measure yourself by the standards set by the environment, and clearly, under such standards, it’s impossible for you to be considered successful.

Presently, you firmly advocate（拥护） the theory of “relying on connections,” denying the value of individual efforts, believing that personal endeavors merely provide a ladder for others to progress, and those without connections can only serve as stepping stones for others, perpetually（永远） being stepped on. You are unwilling to be a stepping stone; after all, there seems to be no promising（有希望） future, so why not focus on self-indulgence（自我放纵）?

Choosing to “lie flat” doesn’t mean giving up on effort. You need to find another direction, galloping（驰骋） with all your might（竭尽全力） on a path（赛道） that belongs to you, chasing after time, and seeking your true self.

Where is the path that belongs to you? You still need to reclaim（寻回） that courage of “none other but me” and find your direction while striving to excel（努力超越）. When you care about trivial（琐碎） matters, they become significant, but when you wholeheartedly（全心全意） focus on yourself, you become the center of your growth and progress. You don’t need to deliberately（刻意） ignore many people and things; when you pay attention to more valuable individuals and matters, naturally, you’ll block out the others, and their influence won’t affect you or will be minimized.

People tend to compare themselves with those around them, and you can’t completely escape making comparisons. However, you must carefully choose whom you compare yourself to; not just anyone is qualified（资格） to be your benchmark（基准）. The key right now is to take action. Taking action helps you control your thoughts from sinking, and only then can you find your direction.

你不可能摆脱环境的影响，也不可能屏蔽掉身边人对你的影响，你在什么环境中，你和什么人相处，对你的发展是很重要的，你渴望着通过自己的心智去战胜环境，从身边的人群中脱离出来，基本是一件持续的消耗过程。你没有足够的智慧和底蕴去对抗这些，你生活在这样的环境里，真真切切的和身边的人打着交道，他们的一言一行不可能不影响你。而且，实际情况明确的告诉你，你没法拜托环境和身边的人对你的影响，有时这种影响成了消耗你最大的因素。

你会在乎你的朋友圈有没有点赞，你会在乎工作群里其他人的消息，你会在乎有没有得到表扬，你会在乎自己在别人看来重不重要，你会在乎某个人你某件事。一直以来，你嘴上说着不在乎，却时刻都在影响着你，所以你摆脱不了环境对你的影响，出淤泥而不染的能力你并不具备。你也渴望着被认可，渴望着成为一个有用的人，虽然你无数次的反感被利用，有时候被利用也是一种认可不是吗。你会在乎你发的朋友圈，有时朋友圈成了你情绪宣泄的出口，这一切都是真实存在的，不要刻意的去回避这些在乎，想一想该怎么做去应对这个环境。

时间在飞，你要去追，不然岁月除了将你变老，再无其他。之所以你摆脱不了环境和其他人的影响，是因为你不知道自己该做什么，你依然用环境定义的标准来衡量自己，显然在这样的标准下，你不可能是一个做的好的人。现在的你是“关系至上”理论坚定的拥护者，你否定个人的努力，认为个人的努力不过是为他人进步铺平道路提供梯子，没有关系的个人就是别人的垫脚石，只能永远被人踩在脚下。你不甘心做垫脚石，反正没有什么前途，不如自我一些。躺平不意味着放弃努力，你得找到其他的方向，在另外一条属于你的赛道上尽力驰骋，去追逐岁月，追寻自我。

属于你的路在哪里，你还是要找回那种舍我其谁的魄力，找到自己的方向并努力做好。当你关心那些鸡毛蒜皮的小事时，那些小事都成了大事，当你全力关注你自己时，你自己才能成为中心才能成长进步。很多人和事不用刻意去忽略，当你关注更有价值的人和事时，自然就会屏蔽掉他们，也不会受到影响，或者将影响降到最低。人都是会和身边的人去比较，你也摆脱不了去和别人对比，可是你要甄别对比的对象，不是随便一个人都有资格成为你对比的对象。目前的关键就是你要行动起来，动起来才能控制思维的下陷，才能找到自己的方向。